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Writer, reader, parent of adults. Author of PARENT HACKS and other books + the Parent of Adults newsletter on Substack.

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The Calming Power of Now

The Calming Power of Now

We’re about 19 months into the COVID era and while many things have improved since this all started, we’re still wrestling with different levels of disruption and unpredictability that can lead to anxiety about the future.

In Episode 247, Christine and I talk about the power of focusing on the immediate runway in front of you and what baby steps you can take to redirect away from constant worry about what might happen in the future.

Empty Nest Report

Empty Nest Report

When you’re in the early parenting weeds, the prospect of your kids eventually moving out seems approximately a million years away. In Episode 245, I provide a look into the enormous juncture of parenting that is the transition to the empty nest.

How to Be an Adult (with Julie Lythcott-Haims)

How to Be an Adult (with Julie Lythcott-Haims)

There’s way more to adulting than the typical five markers of adulthood (finish education, get a job, leave home, marry, have kids).

In Episode 228 of Edit Your Life, Christine talks to author Julie Lythcott-Haims. Her new book, Your Turn: How To Be An Adult, is about how to get beyond basic adulting to the power of wanting to be an adult and having to adult. Christine and Julie talk about vulnerability, perfectionism, people pleasing, and more.

Mystery socks

Mystery socks

I’ve been pretty quiet on the Internet these last few weeks.  Not gone, just quiet.

It’s hard to talk about grief’s gifts without sounding maudlin, or insensitive to others’ experiences.

Strangely, it was easier for me to find words for grief right after my Dad died in February. Before COVID. Before my kids’ school lives were obliterated. Before Chadwick and Ruth and George. Before the fires. Before the election and its twisted aftermath. Before other losses, too private to talk about here.

I’m sitting in the charred ruins of my plans. I see them for the mirage they were. Not useless, simply mental exercises about a future I don’t control. The smoke is clearing.

Time is exquisite.