The day I have feared has arrived


There was a shooting at my niece’s high school in Santa Clarita, CA, this morning. She is safe, thank God. She heard shots and ran out the back door to escape. But several were injured, and two of her classmates were killed. The shooter was a 16 year-old student.

The day I have feared has arrived. Today, school gun violence touched my family directly. I’ve always known in my head and heart, but now I know with a sickening feeling in my gut: our children are not safe at school. No child in America is safe at school.

I don’t know what to. So I’m donating to Everytown For Gun Safety/Moms Demand Action. Many of my friends are Moms Demand volunteers and I stand in awe of what they have accomplished in legislatures across the country, lobbying for common sense gun safety laws.

My birthday is next week so I’ve started a Facebook fundraiser. If, like me, you have fear or anger you don’t know what to do with, I invite you to contribute.

Link: Asha’s birthday fundraiser for Everytown for Gun Safety

I also donated to Amy McGrath, Mitch McConnell’s 2020 opponent for US Senate (KY).  The US House passed legislation for universal background checks in 2019. Background checks, how basic a need is that. McConnell, whose campaign has received over $1.2 million from the NRA, is the singular roadblock, refusing to even allow the legislation on the floor of the Senate for discussion, let alone a vote.

McConnell needs to go AND his opponent, Amy McGrath, is a badass.

Amy McGrath and Christine Koh via @bostonmamas on Instagram

Christine interviewed Amy for our podcast in 2017 (two badasses!!). Have a listen. McGrath would be a huge asset for Kentucky and the US.

Link: Amy McGrath for Senate

Link: Edit Your Life Ep. 103: Dreaming Big and Making Change with Amy McGrath

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  • Our lobby has to become stronger than the NRA. I’m so sorry, Asha— this should never happen.

  • I am so sad when I hear it on the news and cannot imagine what it feels like to know that your niece was in the building this time.

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